There is no “Try” in Divorce

There is no Try in Divorce

In the movie, Star Wars, Luke Skywalker is training with the Jedi Master Yoda in the Dagobah swamps. Yoda turns to Luke and asks him to raise his sunken starfighter, which weighs several hundred tons, from the Dagobah swamps with the power of his mind.

Luke says, “All right, I ‘ll give it a try.”
Yoda responds, “No. Try Not. Do, or do not. There is no try.”

Yoda’s right. There is no try!

We often connect the word try with an expectation of failure. The use of the word alone signals that the speaker expects that you may fail. Yoda ‘s imperative to do or do not has a power that the word “try” simply does not convey—don’t waste time with fruitless efforts.

In the context of marriage, separation and divorce, there is also no “try.” While it is true that in the context of a relationship, your partner can hinder your efforts and perhaps derail them entirely, you still remain responsible for your own actions. You can succeed or fail, but you can never try.

If you want to improve your marriage, take steps to improve your marriage. Ask your spouse to attend marital counseling, go to counseling alone if they refuse, read the Love Dare, and do something positive but don’t “try.”

If you need to end your marriage, download our free eBook, Steps to Divorce, begin our free online divorce workshop and plan your future.